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About the Family Groups

A Nar-Anon family group is primarily for you who know or have known a feeling of desperation concerning the addiction problem of someone very near to you. We have traveled that unhappy road too, and found the answer with serenity and peace of mind. When you come into the family group you are no longer alone but among true friends who understand your problems as few others could. We will respect your confidence and anonymity as we know you will respect ours. We hope to give you the assurance that no situation is too difficult and no unhappiness is too great to overcome.

Our program, which is not a religious one but a spiritual way of life is based on the 12 suggested steps of Nar-Anon. We have found that the working of these steps will bring the solution to practically any problem. We urge you to take this program and its 12 steps seriously. It has been helpful to us as the NA program is to the addict. We only ask for the wisdom and courage to see ourselves as we really are, to do something about ourselves with the help of a higher power of our choosing, and for the grace to release our addicts with love and cease trying to change them.

Keep an open mind and attend as many meetings as possible. Feel free to ask questions and to enter into the discussions. You will soon make new friends and feel very much a part of the group.

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own. Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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About Addiction:

We have learned that addiction is an illness. It is a physical, mental and spiritual disease that affects every area of life. It can be arrested but never cured. we have found that compulsive use of drugs does not indicate a lack of affection for the family. It is not a matter of love, but of illness. The addicts' inability to control their use of drugs is a symptom of the disease of addiction. Even when they know what will happen when they take the first drink, pill or fix, they will do so. This is the "insanity" we speak of in regard to this disease. Only complete abstinence from the use of drugs, including alcohol, can arrest this disease. No one can prevent the addicts' use of drugs. When we accept that addiction is a disease, and that we are powerless over it, we become ready to learn a better way to live.

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The Twelve Steps of Nar-Anon

  1. We admitted we were powerless over the Addict -- that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people whenever possible except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly
    admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
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The Twelve Traditions of Nar-Anon

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends on unity.
  2. For our group purposes there is but one authority -- a
    loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.
    Our leaders are but trusted servants -- they do not govern.
  3. The relatives of addicts, when gathered for mutual aid, may
    call themselves a Nar-Anon Family Group, provided that as a
    group, they have no other affiliation. The only requirement
    for membership is that there be a problem of addiction in a
    relative or friend.
  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting
    other Nar-Anon Family Groups, or NA as a whole.
  5. Each Nar-Anon family group has but one purpose; to help
    families of addicts. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps
    of Nar-Anon, by encouraging and understanding our addicted
    relatives, and by welcoming and giving comfort to families of
  6. Our family groups ought never to endorse, finance or lend
    our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money,
    property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual
    aim; but although a separate entity, we should always
    cooperate with Narcotics Anonymous.
  7. Every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining
    outside contributions.
  8. Nar-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever
    non-professional, but our service centers may employ special
  9. Our groups, as such ought never to be organized, but we may
    create service boards or committees directly responsible to
    those they serve.
  10. The Nar-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside
    issues; hence our name ought never be drawn into public
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather
    than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at
    the level of press, radio, films, Internet and other forms of
    mass media. We need guard with special care the anonymity of
    all NA members.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our
    traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above
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